Everything you’ve always wanted to know about women’s retreats (but didn’t know who to ask)
Whether you’re a first-time retreat participant, a wanna-be or
a veteran of many retreats, these FAQs are for you. If, by chance, you have questions
that aren’t answered here, just email or call!
As an ADD women you might find yourself taking care of everyone else – that eternal caregiver role. People and situations insistently cry: “Feed Me!” And you oblige. It’s easy to lose yourself.
Your ADHD might be a Big Problem in your relationship or at your job. You need a place to be you, in all your ADD-ish glory! Besides, taking time for you isn’t a luxury. It’s a necessity. Recharging your batteries allows you to go back to the people and situations in our lives with renewed energy.
Or perhaps it’s time for a change. Big. Or small.
It allows you the rare opportunity to find yourself again. And that can change your life forever.
“My experience of ADDiva retreats for myself and for the women who attend is that it takes a day or two to really get comfortable in this new space, the retreat center, your bedroom, the other women.Then it takes a couple of days to come back to yourself, allow yourself to realize that there’s nowhere to go, no phone calls to make, no alarm clocks for work. The last few days of a retreat are when the real transformation happens. Those are the magical days!” –Linda Roggli
Each retreat has its own unique flow, but generally, the first couple of days we participate in some exercises and processes that allow everyone to settle in and get acquainted. As the week goes on, the retreat gets more personal. Women share their stories, write, paint, dance, sing, laugh, cry.
These retreats are all about acknowledging you for being exactly who you are, not about shaming you. Whether you (think you) sing off key, (think you) have two left feet and (think you) can’t pick up a paintbrush you are loved and supported. No worries.
That said, retreats are YOUR renewal time. What you do during the retreat should fit what you need most. If what you desperately need is time alone, consider a personal retreat instead of a guided retreat. There are retreat centers that often accept individual retreatants.
“…who can tell when the well is really dry? Months? Years? Trustworthy women show up over and over, without a trace of resentment, ready to hug, bear witness, sit quietly, as we reweave, tear out and reweave again.”
–from GirlTalk, copyright 2003 by Linda Roggli
The focus of all ADDiva retreats is 100% positive acknowledgment; you’ll be celebrated for exactly who you are—shy or extroverted. And Linda makes sure that everyone is heard, if they choose to be. There is no domination of the conversation or process by one person or group. The Standards of Presence, which are the foundation of the ADDiva retreat, honor each person fully and openly.
Your retreat experience will be even richer if you don’t know anyone else. If you bring along a friend, you risk trying to maintain your image in her eyes. But if you do bring a friend, for heavens sake, don’t bring someone who doesn’t know and love the real you – that would be silly (not to mention self defeating!).
When you come to an ADDiva retreat, come with the expectation that that you’ll have NO expectations – no need to hang onto your old way to thinking or being, no need to maintain the façade. Know that Linda’s processes break the ice quickly and allow you to feel comfortable in a short time.
As a matter of fact, let’s set the record straight right now: you get from an ADDiva retreat exactly what you give. Arrive full of excitement and intention to change your life and that is precisely what will happen!
Family members and even friends can fall into a rut in the way they think about and talk to you. The point of a retreat is to decide whether the old patterns are still working for you. If you bring along the person who created the pattern with you, it’s not so easy to look at the patterns. Ditto for talking to husbands or mothers or friends or even therapists (nothing wrong with any of them, mind you).
It’s a lot like taking a vacation from work – you work ahead a little bit before you leave and then you catch up after you return.
How much does your ADHD cost you right now? Linda estimated that over the years, hers cost more than $200,000! Going to Sea Change might actually SAVE you money in the long run!
And what price tag would you put on becoming the woman you know you were meant to be? What’s the price of freedom? And more importantly: when WILL you be able to afford it?
Women have concocted creative solutions to finding money to attend the retreat. One woman took out a loan for her airline ticket and rental car. Another one got a windfall from her Social Security payments at the last minute. Set your intention and allow the Universe to unfold its mysteries to you. And stay open to extraordinary possibilities.
For Pete’s sake – self development and personal growth are for EVERYONE. So, if you are gay, you’re welcome. If you’re not gay, you’re welcome. But if you have strong feelings against either one, better find another retreat.